The following conversation has had been had many times. Not just yesterday, but years. the identities of the said persons are held in secret because I'm good at that. SO if you see yourself or if we had this conversion, I simply say I'm not picking on you. I had this many times before. Don't get butthurt. That's the whole issue here.
Questioning Celebratory Person: OMG, I can't believe you don't celebrate your own birthday.
Me: It's not a big deal to me.
QCP: How is this not a big deal? I make people celebrate a whole weekend/week/month. My birthday is a holiday in my house!
Me: I grew up as a single child. The sad part was that I was the third born, so I was a very spoiled child. Spoiled, yet lonesome since I didn't have siblings and spent most of my time alone. In the long run of things I was a spoiled brat who was used to everything being there because everything was there. I have loving parents, but no social economic benefit to be spoiled. I didn't learn this until I left home at 16 and learned the hard way that I can't and won't have it my way, especially since no one is going to sacrifice their well being to give me that. So I had my spoiled time and I reflect on that today and am happy to say the world does not revolve around me.
QCP: *usually disregard everything I've said* Yea, but it's a time for celebrations and an excuse to party.
Me: Yea, well I come from a culture that a child's party is not cake and balloons, but usually adults drinking it up for your reason to be. And I've learned that people don't need an excuse to party. They're going to do it anyways and while I can't stop them I'm not one to get surrounded by strangers and be the center of attention. They can celebrate Canada Day all they want. I enjoy small moments with friends that have no social worth.
QCP: *still not getting it* Yea, but you can make people do what you want and listen to you. You can call the shots and have it your way. It's your special day!
Me: I know, but I'd rather not foster resentment in any way related with my birth. I don't like to demand or even ask. If people offer I usually decline, but I'm starting to learn that accepting is another way of allowing people to show appreciation even though I've learned to depend on no one and just the smile on their faces is more than enough.
QCP: *still not getting it* But Presents!
Me: I'm not a material person anymore. I value others more than that. I rather have people happy to see me than to give me things.
QCP: *disappointed that I'm not getting it* Well, ok, whatever......just a waste.
Me: You are always welcome to celebrate what ever you want. I just rather not be the center of attention.
QCP: yea.....sure. *introducing something frivolous to the conversation and this is where I usually blank out or walk away.*
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